You get to know yourself by allowing yourself to try more and make mistakes, from considering about your inner feelings and objectives in life.
You have to stop running constantly, and be able to stop and meditate without feeling immediate lows without activity, to be happy for periods with your own company, and not need the approval from another person before you can measure your achievements.
You need to consider your strengths and weaknesses, and what new experiences and challenges you would like to have, but also to stop and consider your successes, and what you have learnt from life so far.
You gain self respect and self esteem, and can then have the confidence to open yourself up to others, and expand your social network, and social activities. You become a person fully in your own right not the daughter or the wife of someone else.
Once you fully know yourself, as an individual with needs, feelings, hopes and desires, all of which you are going to meet, rather than just reflecting what others feel you should be doing.
