Succeed in  something

 

It is often said that no one can be happy through life without succeeding at something. The more successes the happier you will tend to be, however these do not have to be earth shattering, world successes, or even noticed by other people, but allow you to confirm to yourself that you are competent, and successful. 

We often measure our successes by what we have overcome, and perhaps this is the reason why people with everything seem to go out on a limb and create themselves problems that they can overcome.

You should not equate success with owning, or getting any item, as this is short lived and will tend to set up a cyclic action where you are only happy and feel successful if you have that extra item, constantly chasing disappearing rainbows. Instead feel your successes when you are able to undertake a new skill, understand a new topic, bake a new type of cake proficiently or put on a meal that gives pleasure to others. The feeling of success you would get if you made a dress yourself and wore it to a family gathering would be many times that of having bought a designer product costing many times as much.

Also feel the success in helping others, a friend who is successful with your help will bring you as much happiness as if it was your own, be it a makeover that makes them happy or coaching that you gave them to get through an interview. Being a useful member of a small support group with your special friends will mean you get many opportunities to share in these successes and by this help you all to become far happier.