The death of someone near to you is always painful, as is the parting from anyone who you value and will never see again. Providing you have overcome the fear of death, the hurt will pass quite quickly although if it was a partner, many people find that it can take a year or more before they are over it sufficient to start considering a new partner.
There is often a feeling of anger, at the person who has left you, at the medical people who did not save him, or the the driver of the other car in an accident. You need to accept that this is a normal reaction, but as soon as you are able get over this and move on to thinking about the good times you had together, and then eventually to how you are going to spend the next phase of your life. Women with children may be tempted to live life through their children but this is never successful as it is suffocating for the children, and eventually leaves the woman with very little.
Friends or a support group are by far the best treatment, but the odd romantic fling as soon as you are able can also help. Don't in the first case look for another long relationship, but take some time out and live a little, get to be with several people, and to feel confident and work out what you like and who you enjoy being with. Remember that if you are not looking at producing more children, then perhaps another female may be as attractive an idea if not more so than a man who may be set in his own ways.
You need to move on, life may be different, and the challenges may change. People may avoid you as they do not know how to handle the situation, and you may be tempted to act the way others expect you to, rather than the way you would like.
